“Where does resilience come from?….It comes from knowing that you never have to be alone….If you feel connected, you will always be able to deal with adversity. The skills we need to deal with adversity begin with a feeling of I can handle this. It is a feeling of No matter what happens, I can find a solution; a feeling of I have dealt with hard times and come out fine before; a feeling of Even when I feel lost, I always have somewhere to turn.” – Dr. Edward Hallowell
Resilience and coping skills are important for everyone. No matter who we are and what our life is like, every single one of us will experience some amount of hardship, trauma, suffering and loss. Learning coping skills will help increase our resilience and ability to manage the difficult times of life. Ultimately, we may grow to the point where we can retreat to that peaceful, loving place within ourselves despite what is going on without. It is so important to teach children these skills so they are just second nature to them as they go through their lives.
Below are links to some very helpful suggestions and information regarding resilience and well being.
http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/01/01/40-lessons-for-finding-strength-in-hard-times – 40 Lessons for Finding Strength in Hard Times
http://www.jeremiahshopeforkindness.org/resources/hotlines-and-websites-for-mental-health -Hotlines and websites for suicide prevention and depression
Building Resilience
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_hardwire_resilience_into_your_brain
Building Resilience in Children – 20 Practical, Powerful Strategies (Backed by Science)
http://resilnet.uiuc.edu/library/grotb95b.html#appendix1 – Guide to promoting resiliency
http://www.cyc-net.org/cyc-online/cycol-0205-resilience.html -Using academic strategies to build resilience
http://resilnet.uiuc.edu/library/grotb95b.html -A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children: Strengthening the Human Spirit
-Appendix of previous link with strategies for teachers/parents: http://resilnet.uiuc.edu/library/grotb95b.html#appendix1 –Promoting resilience in children: teaching and discussion strategies (several concrete suggestions)
http://www.ecoliteracy.org/downloads/building-resilience-home -lesson plan on resiliency
http://knowledgex.camh.net/amhspecialists/promotion/Pages/building_resilience.aspx -Building resilience
http://crahd.phi.org/papers/Fostering.pdf – Fostering Resilience in Children – Bonnie Benard
http://www.ppc.sas.upenn.edu/prpsum.htm -resilience research in children
http://www.ascd.org/publications/educational-leadership/sept96/vol54/num01/Building-Resiliency-in-Students.aspx -Building resiliency in students
http://www.edgeworkconsulting.com/tools/16%20Games%20That%20Promote%20Conversations%20About%20Resilience%282005%29.pdf -Activities to promote conversations about resilience
http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/resilience.aspx# -10 tips for building resilience in children and teens
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/pressure-proof/201111/7-strategies-building-your-familys-resilience – “7 strategies for building your family’s resilience” (could also be used in the classroom)
http://www.risk-within-reason.com/2011/10/24/coping-strategies – Teaching kids good coping strategies to build resilience. (part 1)
http://www.risk-within-reason.com/2011/10/26/resilience-connection – Building resilience (part 2): How to give your kids a sense of connection
http://www2.aap.org/stress/teen1-a.cfm -Create a personal stress management guide
http://www.barnardos.org.uk/what_works_in_building_resilience__-_summary_1_.pdf – What works in building resilience?
http://www.connectwithkids.com/ADAPP/pdf/BuildingResilienceResourceGuide.pdf -Resource guide –building resilience discussion questions (includes an activity and worksheets)
http://www.education.com/reference/article/building-resilience-children-challenges -Building resilience in children with challenges
http://www.devereux.org/site/PageServer?pagename=dcrc_sses –Socially strong emotionally secure: 50 activities to promote resilience in young children
http://health.tki.org.nz/Key-collections/Curriculum-in-action/Making-Meaning/Health-education2/Building-resilience-in-schools -Building resilience in schools- Level 8 (This is a lesson plan from a New Zealand government website to use to increase understanding of resilience)
http://www.headroom.net.au/Content.aspx?p=123 –Building resilience in the classroom
http://www.tnschoolsprepare.com/building-resilience -Building resilience: Suggestions for healing activities for children in the aftermath of trauma, grief and loss.
http://danielgoleman.info/2011/resilience-for-the-rest-of-us/ – Resilience for the rest of us
http://www.mindmatters.edu.au/verve/_resources/EnhanceResilience_1.pdf -Enhancing Resilience
http://psychology.about.com/od/crisiscounseling/tp/become-more-resilient.htm – Ten Ways to Become More Resilient
http://us2.campaign-archive1.com/?u=775b94b440ad73397931a9ad7&id=879637a2fb&e=fcb29b10f0 -The secret to raising a resilient child –Dr. Laura Markham
http://eprints.jcu.edu.au/3691/1/3691_Oliver_et_al_2006.pdf – Building resilience in young people through meaningful participation by Oliver, Collin, Burns & Nicholas
http://www.thinklocalactpersonal.org.uk/_library/Resources/BCC/Befriending_Works.pdf -Befriending Works: building resiliency in local communities
http://www.thehappinessinstitute.com/freeproducts/docs/Building%20Resilience%20-%20Using%20Positive%20Psychology%20to%20get%20through%20tough%20times.pdf -Building Resilience Using Positive Psychology to Get Through Tough Times
Handouts for growing resilient families and communities
Resources for building resilience
Directory of docs to build resilient communities
Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
http://www.mindfulnessinstitute.ca/ – The Mindfulness Institute
http://tlcinstitute.wordpress.com/2012/01/06/mindful-self-compassion-for-kids/ – Mindful Self-Compassion for Kids
http://mindfulfamilies.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=11&Itemid=35 –Mindful Kids
http://www.themindfulparent.org/The_Mindful_Parent/Welcome.html – the Mindful Parent – Experience the Joy of Connecting with Our Children
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-5480/5-Tips-to-Teach-Children-Mindfulness-Meditation.html – 5 Tips to Teach Children Mindfulness and Meditation
http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?option=content&task=view&id=1489 –Mindfulness, Compassion and Wisdom – Three Means to Peace
http://janderson99.hubpages.com/hub/Self-Compassion-Mindful-Self-Respect-and-Compassion-for-Self -Self Compassion –Mindful Self Respect and Compassion for Self
http://www.jimhopper.com/mindfulness/ – Mindfulness and Kindness: Inner Sources of Freedom and Happiness
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristin-neff/self-compassion_b_843721.html – Why we should stop chasing self-esteem and start developing self-compassion
http://www.mindwithheart.org.uk – 16 guidelines for life
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-self-compassion
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/try_selfcompassion – Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem by Kristin Neff
https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#exercises
Stress Management
Learning to forgive ourselves and others is an important part of finding peace-
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