Tips for youth who are being bullied
Know and remind yourself often that it is not your fault, that you do not deserve to be bullied and that there are so many people who care.
Practice self affirming self-talk such as “I am beautiful and lovable just as I am am”.
Report the bullying to an adult, making sure they understand how badly it is affecting you. If it doesn’t get better, keep reporting to other adults until someone helps you and it gets better. Never give up!
Ask friends or other students to help you.
Get involved in activities outside of and away from school to meet new friends.
Get involved in anti-bullying and bullying prevention work in your school and community. Ideas for doing this are below.
Tips for youth who are bystanders
Tell the person bullying to stop.
Stand up for and/or stand next to the person being bullied.
Report the bullying to one or more adults or offer to go with person being bullied to report it.
Offer support and empathy later to person being bullied. Include them in your activities with your friends.
Start or become involved in bullying prevention activities in your school and community. Ideas for activities are below.
Tips for youth who are bullying others
Remind yourself that what you say and do leaves its mark forever. Mean words and actions affect people for their entire life.
Think about what kind of world you want… one in which it is okay and even cool to be mean? Or one in which people respect each other?
Learn to have empathy and care about the feelings of others. Practice with one person or one interaction at a time.
Love and have compassion for yourself and know that putting others down does not bring you up.
Know that you can stop bullying. Everyday is a new chance to start over and stop bullying.
Become involved in bullying prevention activities in your school.
Websites, info, resources and support groups for youth
http://www.stompoutbullying.org/livechat_portal.php – webpage and chat room for kids and teens
http://www.theinsite.org/index.html – website for teens dealing with a variety of issues including personal relationships
http://www.marketwire.com/press-release/teens-share-personal-stories-about-bullying-on-stageoflifecom-1538627.htm – place for teens to share stories about bullying
http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx – website with chatline for kids who are being bullied
http://www.bullying.org/index.cfm -Click on “want to share” -has links to support groups for kids who are bullied and for parents-
http://www.bulliesout.com – has lots of info and mentoring for kids
http://cybermentors.org.uk/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=12&Itemid=26 – has mentors for youth by trained youth
http://www.kidscape.org.uk/childrenteens/index.asp – info and support for kids
Student Action Ideas for Kind Schools
Establish a group/committee in your school whose focus is creating a kinder school climate (bullying prevention)
-Ask a teacher or parent to help you get started on this.
-Determine a name for your group and how often you will meet.
- Themes related to anti-bullying/bullying prevention that you can focus on:
-Being kind, respectful, compassionate
-Making sure kids are included (no one is left out)
-Being a good friend
-Speaking up when you see/hear or hear about bullying (be an ally, an
upstander instead of a bystander)
Projects that your bullying prevention group can initiate. When possible include parents and the community.
Create a pledge based on one of the above themes or something similar such as:
- I will be try to be kind.
- I will try to include everyone.
- I will try to help kids who are being bullied by befriending them and report the bullying.
– Some schools have created a short pledge/promise that the students recite every morning and/or create a longer pledge that students (and teachers) sign and display.
– Examples of pledges.
http://www.sad34.net/~tritown/Anti-Bullying%20Pledge (also has a bus safety pledge)
- Create a friendship club that everyone can join.
-Talk about what it means to be a good friend.
-Talk about ways to help everyone feel cared about and included.
-Do fun activities involving being a good friend and including others.
- Designate a place where kids can go during recess/breaks/lunchtime who have no one to be or sit with, like a friendship table in the lunchroom.
- Discuss and plan activities to celebrate and honor all talents, abilities and uniqueness
- Poster contests with an anti-bullying theme and display posters around school
- Door decorating contests
- Make a welcome video to give to new students when they first come to school
- Decorate t-shirts with anti-bullying/ be a friend theme and decide to wear them once a week or month
- Throughout the school year designate certain weeks with various themes surrounding bullying prevention/ being kind/ being a good friend/including others
- Sponsor art/music/ writing/drama projects in which the focus is on bullying prevention themes
- Write plays about bullying prevention themes to perform for younger students
-Example ideas for plays:
- Start a mentor or buddy program where older students mentor or befriend younger students – http://www.dosomething.org/actnow/actionguide/start-a-peer-mentoring-program-your-school –http://www.dubuque.k12.ia.us/studentmentoring/Studentmentoringinformation.htm
- Write articles/tips on bullying prevention themes for the school and/or local newspaper
- Create a flag as a symbol for kindness and respect in your school
- Show appreciation of all school staff
- Talk about ways to show kindness
- Perform community service projects (maybe pairing younger with older students)
- Hold a community event in your community, church, girl/boy scouts, or other clubs and organizations.
-Sample agenda for community event:
Events to raise awareness and educate: Consider holding some of these more than once a year. Repetition is key to integrating new social norms of kindness and respect into the school culture.
- “Nice Happens” every Tuesday http://whatmamataught.blogspot.com/2009/09/tuesdays-child-is-full-of-grace.html
- Pink Shirt Day- http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/about
- No Name Calling Week- http://www.nonamecallingweek.org/cgi-bin/iowa/home.html
- Mix it up day (once a month?)- http://www.tolerance.org/mix-it-up/get-started
- Ally Week- http://www.allyweek.org/
- Bullying Awareness Week:
http://www.bullyingawarenessweek.org – click on each day on the left side of the page for lots of ideas to do anytime
http://www.actionwork.com/antibullyingweek – half way down the page there are lots of ideas
- Bullying Awareness Month:
http://www.pacer.org/bullying/nbpm – has lots of ideas
Websites to help start a gay/straight alliance in your school.
Student Action Toolkits:
http://www.stopbullying.gov/teens/stand_against_bullying/index.html – click on the Youth Leader Toolkit on the right hand side of the page
Website pages specifically with ideas for student action:
http://www.nonamecallingweek.org/binary-data/NoNameCalling_ATTACHMENTS/file/37-1.pdf -pages of ideas that can be used any time during the year, not just No Name Calling Week
http://cybersmartcurriculum.org/cyberbullying/prevention / – ideas for schools, families and communities
Be creative, have fun and involve everyone!